Freeing yourself from old stories

INSIGHTS FROM GEM

Hi there!

Do you ever tell yourself stories that hold you back?

Recently I was speaking to a woman who was coming up to a quarterly performance meeting and wanted to ask for a pay rise. However, in the last few days, her boss had taken her off of a project that she’d only just been given. She explained that her boss was annoyed at her for something that had happened weeks earlier and was now holding a grudge against her. She said that there was no point in asking for a pay rise because her boss likely thought she was too incompetent to deserve it. 

While this all made perfect sense in her mind, when she said it all out loud, she realised that she was making some pretty shaky connections. She also identified that she has a pattern of the ‘I’m too incompetent’ story that had showed up in the past.

In this week’s episode of InklingTV I share 3 questions you can ask yourself to free yourself from old stories.

One more thing before I sign off; remember that you are in charge of your life! There’s a Shonda Rhymes quote that I find particularly useful when I catch myself falling back onto old stories:

Hurt happens to every single one of us without exception. The only decision we get to make is what role we’ll play in our own lives. Do we want to write the story, or do we want to hand that power over?

Homeplay: When you are grumpy or stuck in a funk, ask yourself: What story am I telling myself here? And what story COULD I tell myself instead?

Much love,
Gem

and the Inkling team xo

 

P.S. Is one of the stories you tell yourself that you are not good at public speaking, or that you will embarrass yourself if you try?

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